What Runs Secretly Back There?

The best way to solve a relationship problem is to stop blaming yourself and the other.

This doesn’t mean no wrong was done, no hurt accrued, or you don’t wish it were different.

It means that instead of accepting blame or assigning blame, you accept responsibility. And invite others to do the same.

Behaving responsibly means you acknowledge your relationship expectations so they don’t run secretly in the back of your mind.

Then asses realistically what the other person can give, relative to your expectations.

Build a relationship with this person based on what’s possible, rather than on what you expect.

And ask them to do the same.

If they don’t want to do the same, or can’t do the same…

…stay focused, lead the way, and be patient.

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If you’re running short on patience, get out to a lake or river and watch the heron masterfully execute patience. What you see will help you.

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