Look Through the Surface

Do you often find yourself trying to help people who don’t want your help?

Process what it feels like for you to see them in pain, instead of trying to help them out of pain.

Because sometimes your desire to help them shows you an emotional need you have to help yourself.

Once you help yourself, decide what level of help is good to ‘offer’ them.

And offer it.

An offer is not help. It’s just an offer.

It’s you showing them you’re available to help instead of giving them unasked-for help.

If they say yes, give them your hand.

If they say no, keep processing what it’s like to see them in pain, to want to help, but to feel blocked from helping.

This way you get the help you need, and you’re able to offer them help too.

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If the heron only saw himself in his reflection on the water, he wouldn’t be able to catch fish to eat. He’s got to look through the surface to survive.

Your loved ones reflect something in you. If you just see the surface, you miss what’s deeper, you miss what’s there to help and feed you.

Look deeper. Get curious. Your food is there.